GYM rats, FITNESS gurus, men, women, HOW TO on the dating scene? at the GYM?
This is a 2 part question. First off, there is this really cute guy that works at the gym, that also works out there the same times i do, so we often see each other 3-5 times a week. We know each other by names, smile occassionally at each other, mirror check, etc. I think i'm cute and i'd like to pursue something with him maybe?!? SHOULD I: try and talk to him when he's at the gym on his downtime, or should i talk to him when he's at the gym (working behind the counter) will he be more standoffish and "professional" cus hes working or opposite?!?!!?
and second part, sometimes i go to the gym with my brother who is such a muscular meathead. hehe. how do i let him/others know that WE ARE NOT TOGETHER b/c everyone seems tothink that since my brother and i come and leave together, chat b/t reps, etc.???
Hi well follow some of these hints below that may help u Good Luck
PS> First thing is let him know it's ur brother ur with LOL ♥
HOW TO ASK A GIRL/GUY ON A DATE
It can be tough asking someone out, but even tougher if you do it wrong. Asking for a date can be intimidating and most dread rejection; and consistently getting rejected is bad for your ego and your confidence. Starting small is the best way to ask for a date; it won't scare them off and won't hurt your confidence as much if you're rejected.
When you do ask someone for a date, do it in person. It's too easy to reject someone over the phone, and email or IM is a bad idea too. I will say there are a few exceptions; for example, if you met him/her online and haven't met him/her, but that's a completely different situation. This article is meant to deal with asking someone that you know in person out.
One thing you shouldn't say is: "Would you like to go out with me?"
It's too direct and makes it too easy for them to say "No".
The formality of a "date" may also scare some people off. That's why you should go with a more relaxed approach -- instead of a formal "date", you start by asking them in a non threatening and non formal way.
You also shouldn't walk up to a complete stranger and ask for a date; Some people may find this creepy or annoying.
First, you have to get to know that person. You may already know them casually and talk to them. That's a huge first step (plus-- why would you ask a complete stranger out, knowing nothing about them?).
Don't focus on rejection, either. If all you are thinking about is being rejected, you'll be nervous and it will show. Instead, tell yourself, "I'm not asking for a date, I'm just setting up a time to hang out".
So if you know her a little and are comfortable enough to make small talk, it can still be awkward asking for a date. One thing you must not do is say "Do you want to go out with me?" or "Do you want to go on a date?" or "Will you go with me?". These phrases are too intimidating and aren't very original.
A much better way to ask a girl/guy for a date is something like:
"Hey, I'd like to get together and go do something with you sometime."
That makes it much harder for them to say, "I can't, I'm busy"... because you haven't stated a specific time. You can judge by their reaction if he/she likes you; if he/she says "Sure" or "ok" or "what do you have in mind"-- or anything else that sounds positive—they are probably up for giving you a chance.
If his/her response is more timid or negative, then he/she might not work out to be someone you'll want to date. It happens-- no matter how good you are at asking girls/guys out, or how awesome you are, not every girl/guy will date you, so don't take it personally.
So if his/her response is positive, then your next move is to state a time and place. "Great, I've been wanting to try out the new Greek restaurant sometime; want to go Wednesday?" They will either say "sure", or "I can't make it then"-- if that's the case, ask him/her when will it work. They have already said they wanted to do something with you sometime, so it's hard for them to reject you.
Although I have to say for date ideas, going to dinner is not that original. If you're a good at making conversation, or you already know him/her and have hit it off and can talk for hours, then you're fine! A nice dinner can be a good start.
But if you don't know him/her much, you both aren't that talkative, or you're worried you'll be nervous and not be able to hold a good conversation, then a restaurant date may not be the best idea.
Instead, think of a more unique date idea; Beach combing? Maybe a walk in the park or woods? Browsing shops in mall downtown? Flying a kite? Horse-back riding? Playing Frisbee or similar? Going to a museum? Food is good so you can pick food up on the way, or eat before or after the event; maybe visit a little fish-and-chips place on your way to the beach, or stop at a cafe after going to the museum.
It all depends on what you are comfortable with, what's in your area, and what you think they'd enjoy. If he/she really likes you, they will probably say "yes" to going out even if it's not his/her favorite thing to do!
Another great way to get a date is to also start "hanging out" in a non-dating situation-- for example, invite him/her if you're going with a group of people.
"We're making a bonfire this weekend at the beach, you can join us if you want."
Inviting him/her to group activities makes it much less formal and date-like; but don't worry, you can work your way up to a date from there.
Simply hanging out with him/her more and getting to know him/her will tell them you really do want to date him/her, and it will make it much easier to ask to go with him/her someplace alone later.
From a girl's perspective, if a guy walks up to me out of the blue and says, "Want to go out?" my automatic response is to say "sorry, I can't"...
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